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Tuesday, June 24, 2008

What Is It That Keeps Us From Staying Positive?

What is the one thing that stops us from feeling it real? I'll tell you in a minute, but before I do...

You know, the little trick to making The Law of Attraction work in your life is to somehow find a way to feel fulfilled before you get all the goodies. To get yourself to actually feel like all of your dreams have already come true before they do. (Just like in the magnetizers and vibrational games). To imagine the joy so vividly that you actually alter your body chemistry to "buzz" with the delight of having the desire before it gets here.

Do it long enough and often enough and you will become a highly charged magnetic force towards your desire.

Many people who practice feeling it real with me at my website say they know what to do, but they find themselves procrastinating on doing it.

Why is that?

What is it that stops them from doing something they've seen work in their own lives and the lives of so many others?

Negativity Addiction.

I know it sounds crazy, but some part of us craves worry, lack, fear, doubt, judgment, etc. because we are familiar with the body chemical hormones that flood into our bloodstream when we do so. When we start imagining that we're happy, rich, successful, thin, healthy, and fulfilled, that addictive part of our mind (Some people call it the "ego") steps in and finds ways for us to get our focus back on lackful conditions and situations.

Even people who do visualize and get into the feeling place of already having their desires can end up feeding the negativity by constantly checking to see if their desire has manifested yet. They aren't willing to hold the emotional note long enough to let the "cake bake" on its own without constantly checking on it, which is another subtle form of negative thought addiction.

Most people are completely blind to the fact that they are, indeed, addicted to negative thoughts and their emotional counterparts.

Here's something you can do every time you feel your vibration dip to the negative or you find yourself stalling on your feel it real exercises.

It's called Speed Thanking and it is very effective to break negative thought addiction if you use it RIGHT when you notice the addiction taking over. Here's how it works.

The second you feel negativity taking over, quickly say OUT LOUD Fifty Things You Are Grateful For In Your Life Right Now.

It helps if you can do this with a friend (even over the phone), but if you're alone it works just as well. State these fifty gratitudes as quickly as you can because thinking of so many things so quickly will also help you get out of the negative mental groove because your mind has to work so hard to think of things to feel grateful for.

Try it for a week and see if you don't notice your overall moods lifting because you're not feeding the negative addiction and you're literally rewiring your brain and creating new neural pathways that will make being positive get easier and easier.

Once we overcome our negativity addiction, Feeling It Real and manifesting our desires becomes a piece of cake. We then become positively addicted to feeling good! Our lives start to reflect that and it becomes a win/win success cycle!

Love and Magic,
Denise

Sunday, June 22, 2008

How Can I Let My Good In Today?

This is such a great question to ask ourselves when we feel like we're pushing for our desires to manifest.

Instead of trying to make the good come to us, why not ask this simple question of the Universe.

"How can I let in my good today?"

Close your eyes, open the energy center at the top of your head. Let the Love from your Soulself fill you.

Then, listen for an answer.

Here's what I got for myself:

"Follow the 'buzz'. If whatever you're focusing on makes you feel buzzingly happy, you're letting it in. When you focus on your desires, buzz with the joy of imagining them as here. When you focus on what is around you, buzz with the joy of what's currently beautiful. That's all you need to do."

"Buzzingly" is my new favorite non-word.

So today I'm going to become more sensitive to how I'm feeling. If I'm buzzing with joy, I'm letting my good in. When I'm not buzzing with joy, I'll look for ways to buzz again. That simple.

Buzzingly yours,
Denise Coates
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Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Truly Go There...

Walt Disney once said: "When you believe a thing, believe it all the way."

When it comes to The Law of Attraction, I would like to add: "When you feel like it's already here, feel it all the way."

Meaning...Don't just think about what it might feel like to have your desire.

Truly go there.

Feel your being expand.

Feel the goose bumps all over your body.

Feel the deep sense of "All is right in the world."

Feel the gratitude tears.

Feel the awe and wonder at having been given such an amazing gift.

Really go there.

That's what truly makes you magnetic to your good.

Feel the thing all the way.

Love and Magic,
Denise
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Saturday, June 14, 2008

Self Love Is A Magnetic Vibration

Let's start the weekend vibing at self love!

Answer the following...
1. What is one of the things you most love about yourself?
2. What is the kindest thing you've ever done for anyone?
3. What is your best external feature?
4. What is your best internal feature?
5. What was the cutest thing about you as a child?
6. What is a compliment you get all the time?
7. Who has told you they admire you and why?
8. What is a cute adorable eccentricity about yourself?
9. What are you really really good at?
10. Who have you made feel really loved in their life?
11. If you could forgive yourself for all your mistakes and love yourself now, what might that feel like?
12. What one kind thing can you do for yourself today?
13. What kind thing can you do for yourself this year?
14. What gift can you give yourself because you ARE worth it?
15. Who has made you feel the most loved in your life? Can you give that kind of love to yourself?
16. What are you most proud of?
17. What do you think Source sees when it looks at you?
18. Who Are You behind this particular incarnation? Who are you REALLY?
19. Give yourself a hug right now. How does it feel?
20. Say the following words to yourself: "May I be happy, healthy, and peaceful. May I feel loved." Say it over and over directed at each body part.

How does it feel?

"LOVE LOVE LOVE! THAT IS THE SOUL OF GENIUS!" -Mozart

Denise
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Friday, June 13, 2008

"To Feel" Lists

Are you a "to do" list kind of person?

This is my Law of Attraction version of a "To do" list. It's exponentially more powerful because you're leveraging the Universe.

Ready?

Get out a piece of paper.

Draw a line down the center of the page.

On the Left side of the line, you write down your regular "to do" list.

On the Right side of the line, you write down your "TO FEEL" LIST. Meaning, "Here are all the emotions I want to feel today." Such as: "I want to feel like a millionaire, I want to feel thin" etc.

I've done this the last five mornings.

I check things off of the "To Feel" list if even for a few moments in my day, I felt like this desire of mine already happened.

For example, on the left side of the page, you could write:

1. go to gym
2. clean car
etc.

On the right side, you write:

1. To feel like I'm already in my dream home.
2. To feel like my Soulmate is madly in love with me.
3. To feel like I'm wealthy.


I've been making the right side of my list even MORE important than the left, and in truth it IS! Because you attract with emotions exponentially faster than with action alone!

I love checking the items off my list at the end of the day.

I like saying "I REALLLLLY felt like a N.Y.T. bestselling author today. I REALLLLY felt like a multi-millionnaire today", etc.

I'm telling you, I am becoming a manifesting virtuoso from playing this game and reminding myself that holding the feeling notes every day of HAVING the desire, even for a couple of minutes is more powerful than EVERYTHING on the left side of my "To Do" list.

Try it.

At the very least you'll feel happier every day!

xoxoox
Denise
www.denisecoates.com

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Sometimes...

Sometimes...

The most creative thing you can do is nothing at all.

When we push and shove and claw our way to our goals, we may actually be stopping the flow.

So, sit still. Do nothing.

Just listen.

In my own life, when I try to figure it all out or fix it from a place of fear or lack, I usually make things worse.

What might happen if I did nothing instead?

Except listened.

And relaxed.

Love and Magic,
Denise Coates
www.denisecoates.com

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Monday, June 9, 2008

Ten Things Not To Do When Using The Law Of Attraction

Ten Things Not to do When Using The Law of Attraction

1. Don't take score too soon to see if your desire has manifested or is manifesting.
That's focusing on the lack! And lack attracts lack back. That's why they say "A watched pot never boils." Instead, just ignore the outer conditions and stay focused on imagining you already have your desire.

2. Don't tell all your negative or disbelieving family and friends that you're "manifesting" or "attracting" your desire.
This announcement may be met with sarcastic comments, rolling of the eyes, and definitely will deflate your happy bliss bubble! You need to stay positive when thinking of your desire so only tell people who believe you can manifest using L.O.A. about your plan.

3. Don't yearn.
Yearning is bad. It's a low frequency out-signal that tells the Universe you want a whole lot more of not having your desire. Instead, get familiar with the "having it already" feeling. This will eliminate yearning!

4. Don't take for granted what's already good in your life!
You have to ground your big desires in the fertile soil of present gratitude. Otherwise, that creates yearning. See above for why yearning is no good. So make daily gratitude lists in your head or on paper or on our free forums! This will keep you vibrating at abundance before your desire manifests.

5. Don't take your attracting/manifesting too seriously.
If you make it "hard work", you're lowering the vibration of your out-signal. You have to trick the Universe (and yourself) into feeling like you are already celebrating your success!

6. Don't be jealous of others who have what you want.
That's just low frequency stuff. Jealousy is just a sign that you're not in the "feeling and believing place of already having your desire and you're back into yearning. When someone else has what you want, decide to CELEBRATE their success. Throw a party in their honor, knowing that they are living proof that it's possible to have this desire!

7. Don't judge yourself or beat yourself up for being negative.
That's just more negativity. When you find yourself down or feeling lackful, give yourself permission and be kind to yourself about it. Then, as quickly as possible, turn it around to focus on something wonderful in your life.

8. Don't go it alone.
There is a broader/bigger/more all knowing version of you who is right there, just ecstatic about the idea of helping you manifest your desire. Connect in with that Source and you'll have a lot more power! And if you don't believe in a Higher Power, then join a Law of Attraction group to get support. Try www.Firbee.com to join a L.O.A. social networking site.

9. Don't always make the grass greener on the other side.
When you manifest a desire, decide to stop and truly celebrate it before moving on to the next thing.

10. And finally, don't think there's only one way your desire can come to you.
It can manifest in infinite ways when you open up, let go, and let it in. When you are so focused on "how" your desire will manifest, you're limiting the Universe by only using a small part of your mind and consciousness to figure things out. There's a very wise Universal Intelligence that can bring things to you in the most miraculous ways. Trust that.

Love and Magic,
Denise Coates


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Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Flexing Your Feel Better Muscles

Yesterday, as my personal trainer was pushing me to my limit, I noticed something very interesting. I'm huffing and puffing and dripping in sweat, and I look over at him and he's smiling. Totally relaxed and comfortable as he sweetly tells me the next weight I'm supposed to lift is a little heavier and how "this time, you'll do the whole set."

And I get to thinking.

This is really no different than what I do as your Feel It Real coach in the Interactive Coaching Program. I get in there with you and tell you to stop and "give me fifty gratitudes" or I say, "hurry up and tell me ten ways you're already wealthy. Go!" etc. etc. But, at the end of the day if I don't get my own workout in, I'm going to get just as 'emotionally flabby' as the next negative guy.

Why is that?

Because learning to master our vibrational/emotional frequencies is very much like building and maintaining physical muscles. Without practice, positivity can atrophy, just like our muscles atrophy without movement.

And I can tell you until I'm blue in the face that you need to be a vibrational millionaire by feeling rich now, or that you need to play the Already Happened Game in order to send out the right frequency so you attract your desire. But, if I'm not practicing these games myself on a consistent enough basis, my positive and joyful frequency can grow weaker, just like muscles that haven't been worked out in months.

So, yes, it takes a little bit of practice with these vibrational games to manifest the life of your dreams. My book Feel It Real makes it pretty darned easy to practice because you can just open a page and play a game whenever you're down.

That little bit of effort will not only net you the life you love. You'll enjoy the process a whole lot more than I enjoy the sore muscles I get from working out with my personal trainer.

So right now, stop and "give me fifty".

Say fifty things out loud that you are grateful for in your life. You have three minutes to say all fifty. (Look at a watch or get a timer if you need to.)

The faster you do this exercise, the more powerful it will be.

Things like this and other vibrational games and magnetizers will get you in the best emotional shape of your life!

And yes, you are worth vibrating at high happy frequencies so you can attract back a happy life!

Here's to living your dreams.

Enjoy!
Denise

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Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Three Tips For Being A Vibrational Millionaire

Hello Bright Lights,

Imagine a world where your every financial need has already been met. Your bank accounts are overflowing. You don't even want money because you're so rich already. You could never spend it all.

Can you imagine it?

Can you imagine being the one that people have a hard time shopping for because you're "the man/woman who has it all"? How about being the one who always picks up the checks, never looks at price tags, and gives lavishly to your favorite charities?

Can you imagine being a millionaire?

How vividly?

If it's very easy for you to imagine this, then you're magnetically drawing money to you as we speak, via The Law of Attraction. (Especially if you feel this way all the time.)

But if wealth feels far off; like a distant yearning. If you feel discouraged or jealous of those who are wealthy, then you could probably use the three following tips, some of which are taken from my Vibrational Millionaire program. These tips will help you get into the feeling place of being wealthy, thus drawing your millions to you by The Law of Attraction.


Tip #1: Mentally And Emotionally Spend Lots Of Money

Most people who don't have enough money make the mistake of constricting their vibration and limiting their desire and passion because they don't have the ability to buy the things they are wanting. This habit of energetic constriction unfortunately creates more lack in their vibration and gives them even less money to spend.

One way to counter this constricting energy is to mentally and emotionally spend thousands, even millions of dollars every day to keep the expansive wealth energy flowing out from your aura. This doesn't require you to spend one actual penny! What you do is PRETEND you are buying lavish homes, yachts, clothes, cars, jewelry, gifts, donating to charities, etc. by using catalogs, magazines, or the internet to help you "window shop". You can even make a collage of all the things you're "buying" to convince your subconscious mind you are WEALTHY NOW. You see, your subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between real spending and pretend spending! So go "buy" everything you want! It will keep your vibration set at "wealth".

Tip #2: Find Ways To Feel Rich Right Now

Most people who are wanting money are sending out the frequency of "not enough right now", thus drawing more lack into their lives. We can turn this around and get ourselves out-signalling at wealth by listing the ways we are already wealthy and focusing on those wealth lists several times a day. The best way to do this is to get an "Already Wealthy" journal and every day list at least five ways you are already wealthy in that journal. Day one could read something like this: 1. I'm already wealthy in great health! I'm so fit and healthy! 2. I'm already wealthy in friends who love and accept me! 3. I'm already wealthy in shoes! I have so many shoes, it's amazing! 4. I'm already wealthy in books! I have more books than anyone I know. 5. I'm already wealthy in true love. My marriage is the best!

By the time you're done with your list, you'll be vibrating at wealth and sending out the signal of "more than enough" which, of course, attracts even more abundance to you (in all its forms, including money). One way to feel wealthy fast is to go back over several days worth of wealth lists and read them aloud whenever you're feeling lackful.

TIP#3: Make A Decision To Give Some Money Away Every Day (even if it's only a quarter!)

This tip isn't in the Vibrational Millionaire program, but it's a powerful one to get you to send out the frequency of "I have so much, I have enough to give others." By sending a dollar to the Red Cross or giving a quarter to a homeless person, you are literally reprogramming your own frequency to "more than enough".

Think about it. When you're rich, you'll probably feel really generous and giving because you have more than enough! Well, in so many ways you already do have more than enough. The truth is you have more than many people in this world if you have food to eat and a roof over your head. Share the wealth, even if it's just a dime, and you'll set your frequency at higher and higher wealth signals! This will help attract more money to you in the most fun and seemingly miraculous ways!

Finally, remember that all you want from great wealth is the way you think it's going to make you feel. You can feel safe and secure and free now, just by imagining that you are already wealthy! Also, you can think of all the ways you are already safe and secure and free!

Whatever the case, remember this: Wealth is a choice you make every day.

Love and Magic,
Denise

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