What Is It That Keeps Us From Staying Positive?

What is the one thing that stops us from feeling it real? I'll tell you in a minute, but before I do...

You know, the little trick to making The Law of Attraction work in your life is to somehow find a way to feel fulfilled before you get all the goodies. To get yourself to actually feel like all of your dreams have already come true before they do. (Just like in the magnetizers and vibrational games). To imagine the joy so vividly that you actually alter your body chemistry to "buzz" with the delight of having the desire before it gets here.

Do it long enough and often enough and you will become a highly charged magnetic force towards your desire.

Many people who practice feeling it real with me at my website say they know what to do, but they find themselves procrastinating on doing it.

Why is that?

What is it that stops them from doing something they've seen work in their own lives and the lives of so many others?

Negativity Addiction.

I know it sounds crazy, but some part of us craves worry, lack, fear, doubt, judgment, etc. because we are familiar with the body chemical hormones that flood into our bloodstream when we do so. When we start imagining that we're happy, rich, successful, thin, healthy, and fulfilled, that addictive part of our mind (Some people call it the "ego") steps in and finds ways for us to get our focus back on lackful conditions and situations.

Even people who do visualize and get into the feeling place of already having their desires can end up feeding the negativity by constantly checking to see if their desire has manifested yet. They aren't willing to hold the emotional note long enough to let the "cake bake" on its own without constantly checking on it, which is another subtle form of negative thought addiction.

Most people are completely blind to the fact that they are, indeed, addicted to negative thoughts and their emotional counterparts.

Here's something you can do every time you feel your vibration dip to the negative or you find yourself stalling on your feel it real exercises.

It's called Speed Thanking and it is very effective to break negative thought addiction if you use it RIGHT when you notice the addiction taking over. Here's how it works.

The second you feel negativity taking over, quickly say OUT LOUD Fifty Things You Are Grateful For In Your Life Right Now.

It helps if you can do this with a friend (even over the phone), but if you're alone it works just as well. State these fifty gratitudes as quickly as you can because thinking of so many things so quickly will also help you get out of the negative mental groove because your mind has to work so hard to think of things to feel grateful for.

Try it for a week and see if you don't notice your overall moods lifting because you're not feeding the negative addiction and you're literally rewiring your brain and creating new neural pathways that will make being positive get easier and easier.

Once we overcome our negativity addiction, Feeling It Real and manifesting our desires becomes a piece of cake. We then become positively addicted to feeling good! Our lives start to reflect that and it becomes a win/win success cycle!

Love and Magic,
Denise

How Can I Let My Good In Today?

This is such a great question to ask ourselves when we feel like we're pushing for our desires to manifest.

Instead of trying to make the good come to us, why not ask this simple question of the Universe.

"How can I let in my good today?"

Close your eyes, open the energy center at the top of your head. Let the Love from your Soulself fill you.

Then, listen for an answer.

Here's what I got for myself:

"Follow the 'buzz'. If whatever you're focusing on makes you feel buzzingly happy, you're letting it in. When you focus on your desires, buzz with the joy of imagining them as here. When you focus on what is around you, buzz with the joy of what's currently beautiful. That's all you need to do."

"Buzzingly" is my new favorite non-word.

So today I'm going to become more sensitive to how I'm feeling. If I'm buzzing with joy, I'm letting my good in. When I'm not buzzing with joy, I'll look for ways to buzz again. That simple.

Buzzingly yours,
Denise Coates
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Truly Go There...

Walt Disney once said: "When you believe a thing, believe it all the way."

When it comes to The Law of Attraction, I would like to add: "When you feel like it's already here, feel it all the way."

Meaning...Don't just think about what it might feel like to have your desire.

Truly go there.

Feel your being expand.

Feel the goose bumps all over your body.

Feel the deep sense of "All is right in the world."

Feel the gratitude tears.

Feel the awe and wonder at having been given such an amazing gift.

Really go there.

That's what truly makes you magnetic to your good.

Feel the thing all the way.

Love and Magic,
Denise
www.denisecoates.com
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Ten Things Not To Do When Using The Law Of Attraction

Ten Things Not to do When Using The Law of Attraction

1. Don't take score too soon to see if your desire has manifested or is manifesting.
That's focusing on the lack! And lack attracts lack back. That's why they say "A watched pot never boils." Instead, just ignore the outer conditions and stay focused on imagining you already have your desire.

2. Don't tell all your negative or disbelieving family and friends that you're "manifesting" or "attracting" your desire.
This announcement may be met with sarcastic comments, rolling of the eyes, and definitely will deflate your happy bliss bubble! You need to stay positive when thinking of your desire so only tell people who believe you can manifest using L.O.A. about your plan.

3. Don't yearn.
Yearning is bad. It's a low frequency out-signal that tells the Universe you want a whole lot more of not having your desire. Instead, get familiar with the "having it already" feeling. This will eliminate yearning!

4. Don't take for granted what's already good in your life!
You have to ground your big desires in the fertile soil of present gratitude. Otherwise, that creates yearning. See above for why yearning is no good. So make daily gratitude lists in your head or on paper or on our free forums! This will keep you vibrating at abundance before your desire manifests.

5. Don't take your attracting/manifesting too seriously.
If you make it "hard work", you're lowering the vibration of your out-signal. You have to trick the Universe (and yourself) into feeling like you are already celebrating your success!

6. Don't be jealous of others who have what you want.
That's just low frequency stuff. Jealousy is just a sign that you're not in the "feeling and believing place of already having your desire and you're back into yearning. When someone else has what you want, decide to CELEBRATE their success. Throw a party in their honor, knowing that they are living proof that it's possible to have this desire!

7. Don't judge yourself or beat yourself up for being negative.
That's just more negativity. When you find yourself down or feeling lackful, give yourself permission and be kind to yourself about it. Then, as quickly as possible, turn it around to focus on something wonderful in your life.

8. Don't go it alone.
There is a broader/bigger/more all knowing version of you who is right there, just ecstatic about the idea of helping you manifest your desire. Connect in with that Source and you'll have a lot more power! And if you don't believe in a Higher Power, then join a Law of Attraction group to get support. Try www.Firbee.com to join a L.O.A. social networking site.

9. Don't always make the grass greener on the other side.
When you manifest a desire, decide to stop and truly celebrate it before moving on to the next thing.

10. And finally, don't think there's only one way your desire can come to you.
It can manifest in infinite ways when you open up, let go, and let it in. When you are so focused on "how" your desire will manifest, you're limiting the Universe by only using a small part of your mind and consciousness to figure things out. There's a very wise Universal Intelligence that can bring things to you in the most miraculous ways. Trust that.

Love and Magic,

Denise Coates

www.denisecoates.com

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Pissy Prissy Princess Tantrums!

Okay, so many of you have heard me speak of these tantrums I have every once awhile. I just get this spoiled little rich girl vibe going with the Universe and say, "I deserve it. I want it. I'm going to pout and be a brat until I get it! Grrr!" And for some wacky reason, the energy starts moving and I usually get the thing I want!

There's a quote I used in Feel it Real!
"It is a very funny thing about life - if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it." W. Somerset Maugham

There's something to this feeling of deservingness and entitlement. I think holding the entitlement note can be one of the most powerful things we can do.

Just today I was fed up with a certain situation and I just decided, "this is below my standards, Universe! I deserve it to be better! Grrrr" (pissy prissy princess).

And sure enough, later that day, the situation was better.

So, today I'm going to hold the entitlement note...(and maybe even for the rest of my life!)

Love and Magic,
Denise

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There's a CURE for depression?

What is the Easiest and Most Natural Way to Cure My Depression?

If you or someone you love suffers from mild to moderate depression, what if I told you there is a completely natural way to treat it that is totally safe with no side effects and is completely free of charge?

Would you be interested?

Keep reading and you will find EIGHT TIPS for naturally curing your own mild to moderate depression!

I'm here to tell you there is a way to cure your depression in a completely natural way. I'm not talking about treating the depression. I'm talking about curing it. (For severe depression, I'm not a doctor, so I recommend getting treatment from a medical professional but I think this method will help at least somewhat with severe depression too!)

How do I know this method works? Because I cured my own mild depression this way and I am helping hundreds of people do the same thing every day.

What is the secret to naturally curing depression?

The answer is simple.

By learning to change your own body chemistry.

What do you mean by changing your own body chemistry?

If you look at what antidepressants and other mood altering pharmaceuticals do, they basically adjust your own body's chemistry so that you have more feel good hormones and chemicals running through your bloodstream and body. That's it. That's all they do.

How on earth do you do that without medication?

The secret weapon for altering your own body chemistry is closer than you think.

I'll give you a hint. It weighs about three pounds and can be found between your ears.

That's right.
Your brain!

The secret to curing your own depression is within your own brain. It's the most powerful pharmaceutical company in existence. It has more mood altering chemicals and hormones that you can find in any pharmacy!

What we focus on with our mind has been proven by biologists to alter our own body's chemistry.

Let's try an experiment.

Close your eyes right now and vividly imagine eating a lemon. You cut it in half and squeeze the juice of one of the halves of the lemon into your mouth. Feel the juice as it hits your tongue and then as you swallow it. Smell the lemony smell and taste it on your taste buds. Feel the trickle of juice as it hits your mouth. Really get into all the sensations of tasting the lemon.

Are you noticing anything happening to your body's chemistry? If you're paying close attention, you'll see that your mouth has started to water. You are producing exponentially more saliva in your mouth than you were just a few short seconds ago.

But you're not actually eating a lemon! How is it that your body is creating all these chemical changes without actually eating the lemon?

Because of this wonderful little secret! Your body cannot tell the difference between a vividly imagined event and an actual event. Just think about it. When you go to a scary movie, you know that nothing is actually threatening you in the movie theater. But your heart rate speeds up. Your adrenals squirt out some adrenaline. Blood rushes to your limbs and you get sweaty palms. Why is this happening? There isn't an axe murderer in the theater.
It's because you are VIVIDLY IMAGINING the scary event and your poor little body can't completely tell that it's not actually happening!

"That's all great, but how can this help me cure my depression?" you ask.

Just think about it. If your body chemistry alters in response to whatever you're focusing on, then when you decide to imagine happy events, guess what?Yep. Your body chemistry will begin to put out the happy feel good chemicals associated with those happy events.

When you do this on a very consistent basis (as we do in the Feel It Real! Interactive Coaching Program), you will actually begin to rewire your brain and alter the dominant chemicals within your body so that your body actually becomes trained to secrete the "feel good hormones" instead of the stress and depression hormones.

So how do you learn to retrain your body's chemistry? Following are Eight Tips for learning to channel your own inner pharmacist and release the feel good hormones at will in order to cure your own depression.

Tip #1 Spend ten minutes every day vividly imagining your greatest desires coming true.
In our Feel It Real Interactive Coaching Program, we train you to spend time every day vividly imagining all your dreams coming true in order to activate the happy body chemistry and mood enhancing chemicals in your own bloodstream and body. When you vividly imagine your life as you want it to be, your body can't tell the difference between the real and imagined event and you actually active these happy hormones at will! You will learn to watch the "happy movie" of your life and activate the happy body chemicals that go along with that vividly imagined experience.

Tip #2 Take time every day to be grateful for what is good in your life now.
Nothing gets the "feel good chemicals" flowing in your body more freely than the feelings of being grateful. Gratitude is like a muscle and needs to be worked out daily for the body's chemistry to be altered consistently enough to form new "hormonal habits" with your inner chemistry. In the Feel It Real! Interactive Coaching Program, we teach you to train your own mind to be grateful at all times. We even have a "gratitude lounge" where you go daily to post any and all things you are grateful for. When you train yourself to be grateful, you are basically training your inner hormones to make you happy! Daily practice is the key, but the payoff is no more depression!

Tip #3 Practice energy therapy using things like the Emotional Freedom Technique or "E.F.T."
Our bodies are made up of energy patterns. Eastern medicine has known this for centuries. Practices such as acupuncture, energy medicine, reiki, etc. have been around forever because they work. Emotional Freedom Technique (http://www.emofree.com/) founded by Gary Craig offers a simplified version of energy healing where you learn to tap on acupuncture points of your own body to alter your body's chemistry. Using EFT helped me with anxiety when nothing else would work because it directly alters your body chemistry, almost immediately! What's more? Tapping on your body to cure depression is absolutely free and immediate and there are no side effects!

Tip #4 Learn to master your power emotions.
In the Feel It Real Interactive Coaching Program we teach you how to get your body to resonate at certain emotional frequencies for extended amounts of time. We train you how to get your own body to feel joy, bliss, fun, gratitude, and love at a moment's notice. We teach you how to activate those emotions so they become the dominant emotions that are wired into your own nervous system. Once you practice them enough, they actually become anchored into your own nervous system and it will become the natural state of your body's inner chemistry. One way to learn to feel these emotions at will is to think of times in your life when you DID feel these feelings and vividly imagine these times for five minutes a day. For instance, if you want to learn to feel the feelings of joy at will (because joy cures depression) and to activate all the body chemicals that go along with joy, then you close your eyes for five minutes every day and vividly imagine the most joyful time in your life. It's important to imagine it long enough so that you start to feel your body chemistry begin to change (just like when we imagined eating the lemon). So, you vividly imagine that time at Disneyland, or when you held your baby in your arms for the first time, or the first kiss, or whatever made you feel incredibly joyful and you do this for five minutes a day. It's important that you use a memory that has only joy (no sadness) attached to it for this exercise.

Tip #5 Move your body in joyful ways!
What we do with our body actually influences our inner pharmacy as well. When we do aerobic exercise, for instance, we activate endorphins, which are the body's natural pain relievers! Many people report getting a "runner's high" from running. This is because they are actually activating their own inner pharmacy and releasing a very enjoyable chemical into their blood stream. Other things you can do to activate these inner feel good chemicals are through things like the following: Tai Chi, which influences the body's energy system and releases a host of feel good chemicals.
Yoga, which heals the lymphatic system and glandular system as well, thus releasing great feel good chemicals into the bloodstream.
Deep Breathing, which increases oxygen to the blood, brain, and lymphatic system, causing several different feel good chemicals to be released into the body.
Dancing! It is one of the fastest ways to release feel good chemicals into the body. Something about dancing relieves depression almost immediately. If you are in the middle of a depression energy pattern, stand up, put on some happy music and start dancing. You will be amazed at how quickly you shift your body chemicals back to feeling good!

Tip #6 Have more fun!
The last thing people who are suffering from depression want to do is go out and have some fun, but, ironically, this is one of the fastest ways to shift from a negative chemical secretion to a positive chemical secretion. In many ways, it's the people who are depressed who need to have fun the most! When you do something that is fun for you (each person is unique in what constitutes fun) the body will naturally release all sorts of feel good chemicals into the bloodstream. Fun and play is a natural stress reliever among many animals and it has been shown scientifically that animals that weren't allowed to play became depressed! Your body actually needs fun and play to unwind and de-stress and it does this by releasing these natural feel good hormones into your body. It's important to start thinking of having fun as a mandatory part of self-treating depression, rather than just a frivolous act!

Tip #7 Eat foods that activate your body's feel good chemicals.
Hippocrates said, "Let your food be your medicine and your medicine be your food." There is nothing that affects our blood chemistry as quickly or as dramatically as what we are eating all day long. There are many foods that have been known to exacerbate depression (like the excessive use of alcohol) and there are just as many foods that are known to activate happy hormones in the body. Most raw foods such as fruits and vegetables and nuts are high vibrational foods with their natural enzymes intact. Our bodies were designed to eat raw foods so the feel good chemicals we release when we eat a diet high in raw vegetable, fruit, and nut content have sometimes been known to cure depression all by themselves! Some raw foodists say that they were able to completely go off all anti-depressants after eating a mostly raw diet! So if you want elevated moods, consider eating more food in its raw and unprocessed state! Stay away from things like refined sugar and foods processed with chemicals as these activate depression-enhancing chemicals within the body.

Tip #8 Practice some form of meditation.
More and more doctors and biologists are finding dramatic outcomes related to meditation. They say that meditation lowers blood pressure, relieves anxiety, and releases a whole host of comforting and relaxing chemicals into the body's bloodstream. Meditation also helps us to visualize more clearly our happy futures that will activate our body chemistry in depression relieving ways. Meditation is a way to detach from the criticial inner voice that is always activating negative inner chemical states. From learning to meditate, we sleep better and have more neutrality and detachment from the negative voices in our heads.

In summary, the ultimate anti-depressant is our own brain! When we learn to follow these eight tips on a daily basis, we literally reprogram our own body chemistry and end depression at its causal state rather than just treating the symptoms with medications. There are also herbs you can use if you would like a bit more support (St. John's Wart is a good one) than these tips above. But remember, at the end of the day, your body will release the feel good chemicals into your bloodstream because of what you choose to focus on! Focus in ways that activate the feel good emotions.

Oh, and an added bonus to curing your own depression? When you learn to visualize the desires you want as already here, you activate the Law of Attraction and actually attract better outer experiences into your life!

Here's to your happiness!
Denise

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